I just got back from an amazing vacation.
In the middle of June, I hopped in my pathfinder with my three kids and we headed west. We went everywhere: New Mexico, Arizona, Colorado, Wyoming, Montana, Minnesota, and Wisconsin. We hiked, and rafted, canoed, and hiked some more. We camped in bear infested territory. Cooked over the open fire.
And did I mention that it was just me and my three kids?
Just me. And three kids. None of whom could drive…
Going from Texas, to Montana, to Wisconsin, back to Texas…
And I was the only driver.
And it was awesome.
Okay…Why am I bringing this up? Am I trying to pat myself on the back? Show how tough and cool I am?
No…but I do have something I want to prove, and it’s wrapped up in two simple, but incredibly powerful words: I can’t.
As I’ve talked with people about my trip, so many people have said, “Wow! That’s amazing! I could never do that.”
My answer is, “Uh, yeah you can.”
I’m no better than the next person. I’m not stronger or braver or smarter or whatever it is that people seem to think allows me to do what they “can’t.” There is no tangible reason I can and they can’t.
The only difference is I refused to accept those self imposed limitations. And that is exactly what they are–self imposed.
Lately, I’ve heard those words, “I can’t,” from so many different people.
I can’t say that…
I can’t do that…
I can’t be that…
I’ve started paying attention. Watching. Noting.
Those words tend to be a self fulfilling prophecy. What we think we can’t do, we never try, and therefore, we don’t do it–whatever “it” is.
It’s not that we can’t. It’s that we don’t.
We never try. We give up before we even know our limits. We accept less when we might have so much more. Because we have made an arbitrary decision that we can’t.
I find myself pondering which ways I have accepted the self imposed “I can’t.” Where have I, in anticipation of failure, simply thrown in the towel before I’ve ever even tried? Where have I allowed those pesky words to limit who I am, and who I can become?
Pay attention. What areas of your life are you giving up on because you “can’t?”
What if it’s not that you can’t, but that you don’t think you can? Have you actually tried? Or have you just imposed limitations on what you are even willing to attempt?
Yeah, it might not be easy. But very little worth having in life is easy. It might be downright difficult. It might stretch you to your limits…it might surpass your expected limitations completely…and you might just find out, like I did, that you are capable of doing and being so much more than you imagined.
I dare you to turn the “I can’t” into “I can.”
I can’t wait to find out just what you can become!